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Sandy Hook MemorialAll weekend, I have been fielding calls from community residents, talking to past members of the Elmont and Sewanhaka School Boards, and colleagues from other school district Boards of Education. We are all wrestling with the scope of the tragic events that occurred at Sandy Hook Elementary School.  Our heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with those who lost their lives; their families and those who survived and must now move forward with these dreadful memories.

Needless to say, there is plenty of commentary to go around and we had plenty to say. From the fact the Elmont Online posted on its front page 4 different stories of gun violence in less than one week to “… here we are again – another quiet neighborhood, another set of innocent children.   We must be more engaged because you just don’t know where next”, said Pam Byer.   Another Elmont child advocate points to ”a culture of violence” and the ease with which we move as a community from violent episode to violent episode” falsely believing that each one is separate for the previous.

In the end we all decided that it’s best to simply provide some guidance on how to cope. To that end we restate the words from The Association of School Psychologists:

  1.   Model calm and control because children take their emotional cues from the significant adults in their lives. Avoid appearing anxious or frightened.
  2. Reassure children that they are safe and (if true) so are the other important adults in their lives. Depending on the situation, point out factors that help insure their immediate safety and that of their community.
  3. Remind them that trustworthy people are in charge. Explain that the government emergency workers, police, firefighters, doctors, and the military are helping people who are hurt and are working to ensure that no further tragedies occur.
  4. Let children know that it is okay to feel upset. Explain that all feelings are okay when a tragedy like this occurs. Let children talk about their feelings and help put them into perspective. Even anger is okay, but children may need help and patience from adults to assist them in expressing these feelings appropriately.
  5. Observe children's emotional state. Depending on their age, children may not express their concerns verbally. Changes in behavior, appetite, and sleep patterns can also indicate a child's level of grief, anxiety or discomfort. Children will express their emotions differently. There is no right or wrong way to feel or express grief.
  6. Look for children at greater risk. Children who have had a past traumatic experience or personal loss, suffer from depression or other mental illness, or with special needs may be at greater risk for severe reactions than others. Be particularly observant for those who may be at risk of suicide. Seek the help of mental health professional if you are at all concerned.
  7. Tell children the truth. Don't try to pretend the event has not occurred or that it is not serious. Children are smart. They will be more worried if they think you are too afraid to tell them what is happening.
  8. Stick to the facts. Don't embellish or speculate about what has happened and what might happen. Don't dwell on the scale or scope of the tragedy, particularly with young children.
  9. Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate. Early elementary school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that the daily structures of their lives will not change. Upper elementary and early middle school children will be more vocal in asking questions about whether they truly are safe and what is being done at their school. They may need assistance separating reality from fantasy. Upper middle school and high school students will have strong and varying opinions about the causes of violence and threats to safety in schools and society. They will share concrete suggestions about how to make school safer and how to prevent tragedies in society. They will be more committed to doing something to help the victims and affected community. For all children, encourage them to verbalize their thoughts and feelings. Be a good listener!
  10. Monitor your own stress level. Don't ignore your own feelings of anxiety, grief, and anger. Talking to friends, family members, religious leaders, and mental health counselors can help. It is okay to let your children know that you are sad, but that you believe things will get better. You will be better able to support your children if you can express your own emotions in a productive manner. Get appropriate sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
 

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0 # Mike 2013-03-27 12:09
Where is the media and all the National outrage....An armed thug walks up to a woman with a 13 month old sleeping baby in a stroller in Georgia just last week. The animal pulls a gun and demands money from the mother. She cries and and say she has none. Enraged, by that answer the thug then shoots the baby in the head instantly killing him.

We're is all the National outrage, where are the calls for justice. What's the main difference in this case ???? The armed thug is a BLACK TEEN this horrible story was given just a few days of air time ...and of course the mothers story was questioned until....they actually found the thug and the gun.

Gee imagine if this poor woman was actually in possession. of a licensed gun and shot this animal dead before he killed her son . We would have outrage equal to Trayvon Martin all pushed by the media and poverty pimps like al Sharpton.

But I guess blacks killing people is such a common event .... That stories like this can just fade away.
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Today, we are talking to people about sustainable economic development, because we think it's important to show support for key issues that affect our community - like places in the Elmont for young professionals to live, shop and be entertained; like keeping families closer together and rebuilding the economic and social pillars of the community.

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Barbara Reynolds is a Long Island Regional PTA Board Member and recently installed SEPTA (Special Education Parent Teacher Association) Board Member.  She sent the quoted email to a list of residents and parents shortly after being installed as SEPTA board member.
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